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What do I do when I can no longer care for my elderly parent?

Quick answer · Updated November 2026

You have options, and reaching your limit is not a failure. Move step by step: add help at home, use respite and adult day programs, then look at residential care if needed.

A simple order to work through:

  1. More help at home. Bring in paid helpers, family or volunteers for the hardest tasks.
  2. Respite care. The National Family Caregiver Support Program funds respite, counseling and training through states.
  3. Adult day programs. These give your parent daytime company and give you a break.
  4. A new living setting. Assisted living or memory care may fit when safety needs outgrow home.

To find options near your parent, reach your Area Agency on Aging through the Eldercare Locator at 1-800-677-1116. Our Find Care overview compares the main types of care.

Sources

  1. acl.gov
  2. eldercare.acl.gov
  3. nia.nih.gov

This answer is general information, not medical, legal or financial advice. Rules can vary by state.

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