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How do I deal with a difficult or irrational elderly parent?

Quick answer · Updated November 2026

Stay calm, keep your words short and look for a cause before you argue. Sudden confusion or odd behavior can come from a treatable health problem, so call your parent’s doctor.

MedlinePlus explains that delirium, a state of confusion that usually starts suddenly, can be caused by infections such as a urinary tract infection. A quick change deserves a medical check, not a debate. Learn more in our FAQ on UTI confusion in elderly parents.

When the problem is ongoing, these steps can help:

Caregiver support can help too. Your Area Agency on Aging can tell you what is available near your parent. If anyone is in danger right now, call 911.

Sources

  1. medlineplus.gov

This answer is general information, not medical, legal or financial advice. Rules can vary by state.

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